Comments on Do you have an Extra Large in this?: Ask The Marshmallow: Sick? Eat something.

Kek - Yeah parents have quite an impact on ...

2008-07-13T20:54:00.000+12:00

Kek - Yeah parents have quite an impact on the way that kids turn out, so much that it has quite possibly freaked me out of ever having kids! You, though, seemed to have done well with your lot :-D

Premee - You're welcome, thank you for asking the question! It's always nice to know that someone else is experiencing the same thing as you, even when things seem to illogical to make sense, as per your Dad with the Cadbury and your Mum with the Splenda!

Art - I do think that food has a healing power, yes, though I think the healing power and the comforting aspect of food often get confused. Great point, though - when your body is depleted by an illness, when you don't feel like eating, is when you need the food the most. And as for human contact making you hot, Ahahaha! :-D

Fat Lazy Guy - I certainly noticed that, especially with the brittle and cookies that you sent me! (I'll... assume thats... err... 'love'?) I know that iv'e taken the same sort of thing from my parents; I like to entertain by making food, BUT, I do like encouraging people to join me for Body Jam or RPM. I'm getting there!

aishchai - Heck, it sounds like a rather universal phenomena! We're all the same but different.

boobsihazthem - Yeah, the beginning of that is really to set the scene. As with any culturally based film - Bend it Like Beckham was the same. While you picked up the snacking habit from witnessing your Mum, did she exercise? I know if I had witnessed my Mum exercising, I perhaps wouldn't have taken 20 years to get into the exercise habit!

cmae - Thank you :-D

Arna - It sounds like you're doing great :-D I've made the switch to intuitive eating as well, though I do know there is still some emotional damage that I need to resolve, and that involves looking back over why I got to an unhealthy state in the first place. You, though? Sound pretty awesome. :-)

Its amazing how the little things our parents do c...

2008-07-04T13:50:00.000+12:00

Its amazing how the little things our parents do can warp our association to food.

I am now a big believer of only eating when I am actually physically hungry. It took me a long time to realise that there is no need to eat at some pre scheduled time, just because society tells us its normal to have 3 meals. If my body is hungry it will tell me it needs to eat. I can go 6-8 hours without eating and still feel great.

Its been the only way I have been able to lose weight after so many years of trying. And its so simple. I eat whatever the hell I want, but only when im actually hungry!!

That got a bit off the parents topic didnt it, but it relates to the fact that my parents instilled the eat your entire plate, eat this, eat that rule, when i should NEVER have been eating, if I didnt need the food!!

I'm reaching out across the miles and giving you a...

2008-07-01T03:03:00.000+12:00

I'm reaching out across the miles and giving you a huge, warm, affectionate hug!

Big Fat Greek Wedding is one of those films that I...

2008-06-30T19:40:00.000+12:00

Big Fat Greek Wedding is one of those films that I have to see one day, but I always get bored during the first hour or so.

Oh well. Great analysis. For me and my mother, I always saw my mother snacking. She always snacked - but not on unhealthy foods. I ended up doing the same from a young age, and gained weight very quickly, as it was combined with a relatively inactive lifestyle. A part of me thinks I would have been thinner if I had had a younger sibling to play with/compete with.

My mum just dowsed me with tea when I was ill. And Ice Cream, and Toast. And that was about it!

Another note: My family, being very American, is p...

2008-06-30T17:46:00.000+12:00

Another note: My family, being very American, is pretty physical. A lot of hugging and whatnot. I am a major hugger. I like human contact. Except that it makes me hot.

You have just described my Jewish family. "Nu? Eat...

2008-06-30T15:00:00.000+12:00

You have just described my Jewish family. "Nu? Eat already? What's the matter? You got a fever- have some chicken soup. Makes you feel better...."

Great post :)

Man, in my family, we never r...

2008-06-30T01:55:00.000+12:00

Great post :)

Man, in my family, we never really did the "healing with food" thing, but that's probably because I was allowed to eat whatever I wanted anyway.

I don't know where I picked it up, probably from t.v., but I'm definitely a "show love with food" type person. Whenever my mates come around, I always make sure to cook them something nice, or if they have a request I make it for them the next time they come round.

Yay, thanks! It's so reassuring to hear that my p...

2008-06-29T12:13:00.000+12:00

Yay, thanks! It's so reassuring to hear that my parents aren't the only one with The Crazy. Growing up it was all "Only fair-skinned girls will find husbands, so stay out of the sun!" I actually bought a SOMBRERO a couple of years ago at my mother's request so I could stop getting so 'dark.' The lack of touching is the same in my family, no hugging or hand-holding even as kids, even in family photos. And the food thing!

Just today, my dad was heard to say "Here, finish this up, I don't want it sitting in the fridge." When I turned down a second poori, he snorted and said, "Oh, that won't help your weight." He went grocery shopping and plunked a bar of Cadbury's in front of me: "Here, I bought you some chocolate." My mom just said "I made you a cup of tea, but I put Splenda in it because you're getting kind of fat, don't you think?" Last night it was "You'd probably have a husband by now if you lost some weight" AND "We want you to find a boy who loves you for your mind." :-S
Your parents sound just like mine!!

Gah! Parents! You know, my in-laws are the non-kis...

2008-06-28T21:05:00.000+12:00

Gah! Parents! You know, my in-laws are the non-kissing, non-hugging type. There is/was never any physical affection shown in that house, and don't get me started on the verbal put-downs my husband was subjected to as a kid. He doesn't have food issues, but he DOES have a lot of emotional 'junk' that he really needs to work through.

MY family...anything was an excuse for a hug or a kiss. Coming home, going out, going to bed, bumping your kneem, getting a Brownie badge. Or no reason at all.

Here's the funny thng though - MY mother did the show your love via food thing. HIS mother didn't. Well, she may have tried, but she's a crap cook, so it would never have worked anyway. LOL.

I'm not screwed up - no more than most anyway - but I do struggle with emotional eating. He can look at food and walk on by, no matter how he's feeling. But, boy! Does he ever have some weird shit going on in his head.

My point? Uh... parents have such an impact on their kids mental wellbeing that it scares me sometimes. How are my boys going to turn out? So far, so good...