tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post2059250678999130097..comments2010-03-06T05:49:12.844+13:00Raina Singhhttps://profiles.google.com/114580804200925724154noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-75337025093869346302010-03-06T05:49:12.763+13:002010-03-06T05:49:12.763+13:00Parents know how to push your buttons because they installed them. I&#39;m not sure non-Asians get this. Seriously, I moved out at 17 and over 20 years later I can push-back enough to get Mom to stop saying rude stuff. But she doesn&#39;t get it, the concept of abuse or bullying. It&#39;s immature and childish; she&#39;s old and not going to change. At some point you have to find a way to accept that this IS who your mother is. She is a woman who 1. wanted a different daughter and 2. thinks that abusive behavior is productive. Your best hope of having her improve her behavior is expecting the worst. Laugh it off, write it down in a &quot;hall of fame&quot;, but do not live with her if you can&#39;t let it roll off of you. Lose the blame, of her or yourself; if you don&#39;t want to have the &quot;marriage&quot; conversation, don&#39;t have it! &quot;what other people think of me is none of my business. My business is to get better to think better of myself.&quot; Engrave that on your soul.RGnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-78528949559042942302010-01-20T01:09:21.229+13:002010-01-20T01:09:21.229+13:00God, that is so fucking rude! Try not to take it to heart, I&#39;m sure you are perfectly lovely.<br /><br />xVickyhttp://www.melodicsphinx.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-28703068255299552062010-01-12T07:01:45.903+13:002010-01-12T07:01:45.903+13:00You know what Marshy, I can understand exactly how you felt. You won&#39;t believe the things my mother says behind AND in front of my face about marriage and how nobody would want me (and yes, I had a huge fight over this during this holidays which never helps). <br />I never talk about this to anyone because talking about things like this makes me even more upset so I turn a &#39;blind-eye&#39; and keep it to myself.<br /><br />Could it be cultural? I can&#39;t help but wonder if I was born in a Caucasian family would I be confronted with this idotic talk on a regular basis?<br /><br />{O_o}{O_o}http://www.blogger.com/profile/08104149583860262287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-60793463139992417842010-01-01T05:44:51.608+13:002010-01-01T05:44:51.608+13:00I am sorry. That sucks! It is amazing how the ones closest to us can cut the deepest. Here is to a fabulous 2010!Khttp://worktothin.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-10231122312665370292009-12-31T11:45:32.234+13:002009-12-31T11:45:32.234+13:00I just ran acorss your blog, and thought I&#39;d tell you I really like it! I&#39;ve been in that boat before with the rude comments...the sad thing when your &quot;bigger,&quot; people think they can have public conversation about it! Geesh!Sunny Facehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15343184773801186608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-83686655797538792072009-12-31T06:36:28.175+13:002009-12-31T06:36:28.175+13:00There are no words to describe how horrible that is! I&#39;m sorry. I wish I could just give you a hug. <br /><br />You are smart, perceptive, and totally PRETTY. I&#39;ve been reading your blog for years now and I just can&#39;t beleive some of the things you&#39;ve quoted your mom saying on here. :( I hope you can find a way to find happiness and get away from those toxic people for a bit. There&#39;s always a lot of us here on the net to help you through it all.workforpeanutbutterhttp://workforpeanutbutter.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-10833267250987317612009-12-29T10:54:19.930+13:002009-12-29T10:54:19.930+13:00Oh my god, that&#39;s horrible! It&#39;s ironic...family are the very people who are supposed to accept you no matter what...yet often they&#39;re the ones who cut you down the worst. :( I am very sorry to hear about their narrow-mindedness.<br /><a href="http://www.bodaweightloss.com" rel="nofollow">BODA weight loss</a>Stephaniehttp://www.bodaweightloss.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-72280302184311256722009-12-29T08:33:08.722+13:002009-12-29T08:33:08.722+13:00Oh no I am so sorry. How can people be so thoughtless and heartless?! You really do not need to take any notice of people like this though, just rise above it.Miss Lhttp://www.bingojoy.com/bingojoy/bingo/new-promotions/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-79986142386684590192009-12-29T02:50:13.928+13:002009-12-29T02:50:13.928+13:00Okay, seriously, this is totally abusive. If possible, you need to get away from these people ASAP. It&#39;s nothing short of bullying! People have no right to speak that way about you, especially family members.Ninahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09189303976354426654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-28743455969801597252009-12-28T23:39:48.009+13:002009-12-28T23:39:48.009+13:00I think you are freakin awesome!<br />Serious.<br /><br />xxLucindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13330853499822240712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-50475614004984437732009-12-27T18:50:25.402+13:002009-12-27T18:50:25.402+13:00I can&#39;t believe that conversation! I&#39;m sorry it made you feel so crappy but I know that you know that beauty is so much more than what someone looks like. My hubby has been with me since I was at my biggest and has never changed the way he feels about me despite the many clothes sizes I have been in our 9 year relationship. <br /><br />xo<br />(ps. I think you&#39;re gorgeous!)Ashweehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06634893581094453526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-74151180070586229792009-12-27T16:44:06.227+13:002009-12-27T16:44:06.227+13:00You are BEAUTIFUL, screw them!! Omg, seriously. I am sorry for the hurt they cause you on an ongoing basis. And if you come up north to see the &#39;real&#39; USA, mountains and all, I will buy you the black towels.Lynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06926887495148083672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-67699772316681829222009-12-27T11:49:37.505+13:002009-12-27T11:49:37.505+13:00Everything everyone else has said! You&#39;re gorgeous, smart and witty. Your family blows my mind.Piphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11205242741145067573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-8219379558041536742009-12-27T06:18:00.397+13:002009-12-27T06:18:00.397+13:00You happen to be gorgeous, face and all. Being &quot;bigger&quot; does not mean you can&#39;t have a boyfriend and get married... hello! I am heaps bigger than you and it worked out for me. It just hasn&#39;t been the right time and there hasn&#39;t been the right guy. <br />Your family enrages me, constantly. I wish I could just keep you here with me when you get here!!!! Arrrgh!!!!*Christie*http://www.blogger.com/profile/03836055984193279246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-32149301740531096752009-12-27T02:25:52.863+13:002009-12-27T02:25:52.863+13:00asians! They will never change hang in there or do like me marry someone across the continent now i only hear about them and is not within shooting rangeSinnasuehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13319292248233661873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-16020130917960615502009-12-27T02:16:04.555+13:002009-12-27T02:16:04.555+13:00That is terrible - you really need to get your own space to avoid all that bullshit.<br /><br />Come move in with me - sure its a few thousand miles away but its got to be better...<br /><br />And you are a beautiful intelligent sexy athletic kind thoughtful fucking awesome gal and screw anyone who says otherwiseMelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08297089823084368014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-87426981037133117652009-12-27T01:57:00.134+13:002009-12-27T01:57:00.134+13:00Fuck me, you live in a toxic environment. Save your pennies and get out of there ASAFP, by renting or buying. Don&#39;t cut your family off or anything, just become emancipated! <br /><br />(And I hope you know that you are teh hottness - I assume that you&#39;re awesome enough to know that. Please don&#39;t let the bitches get you down!)Descihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01291564765612453046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-52945810141734682042009-12-27T00:22:07.631+13:002009-12-27T00:22:07.631+13:00I hate that they said that to you. I hate the way it makes you feel. A feeling I know all too well. But it&#39;s family making the comments which is such a betrayal. The positive is you will never treat anyone this badly because you know how it feels.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-58228546058165019252009-12-26T23:22:57.900+13:002009-12-26T23:22:57.900+13:00Geez... these exchanges never fail to amaze me. I&#39;m just baffled as to *why* this shit keeps repeating itself.<br /><br />On the other hand, glad you got some RPMing in, even if you couldn&#39;t get to the gym.Amandahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10346910208449972256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25715317.post-81453810592952262342009-12-26T21:08:30.045+13:002009-12-26T21:08:30.045+13:00Holy crap! Words fail me beyond that. Polite ones at least.Andrew is getting fithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12509663563205981548noreply@blogger.com