Back when weight loss was my primary goal, I published progress photos of when I had gotten down to 74kg.
Every now and then I get a few people stumble upon the old posts and comment on them.
This morning, this happened. Someone came across the 74kg progress photo page, and felt the need to leave me a comment.
Kitty: thats really weird. I'm 73kgs, and a hell of a lot thinner than you are...*sigh*
Firstly - How ignorant can you be to not know that the same weight can look very different on different bodies?
Secondly - What on earth was this person trying to achieve by saying that? Some sort of sick twisted ego boost?
I'm now at about 94kg (not really sure, I only stood on a scale out of curiosity about a month ago) - and I remember when I was in the weight loss phase that I swore "I'll never weigh that much again". But heck, when I think of the difference in the level of fitness between then and now, I am in *such* a better place at 94kg now than I was at 74kg back then. I was also mentally and emotionally unwell, and my happiness depended *solely* on whether I had lost any weight that week. I had to surround myself with numbers constantly and calculate averages and rates of change - which was fun, interesting, but time consuming and completely cut me off from having any sort of inter-personal relationship with anyone; be it Friends or More Than Friends.
Never mind that week after week I get up in front of a class of 35-45 people and put them through an intense RPM workout. Could I have done that back then? No. I not only didn't have the fitness, I didn't have the belief and I didn't have the confidence. I thought those would only become when I was Finally Thin.
In that regard, I love every single one of those 20kg that I have put on since that post. It doesn't matter what the composition of those 20kgs are. If it is 20kg of muscle, 20kg of fat, whatever combination of both.
To the person that wrote that comment...
That is all.
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15 comments:
Amen to that! you're my inspiration
Nicely said. What a bitch.
Self-worth based on how much you weigh is never a good thing. Yes, there are health advantages to being a healthy weight, but not at the expense of your mental health, your relationships and your overall happiness.
You'd totally kick my arse in an RPM class.
Did the comment I left you here not go through??
Christie - Doesn't appear to have :(
Great post!
I'm a science dork, so when people ask me if I'm losing weight--I tell them I'm trying to decrease volume: it will me more concentrated.
Or more dense ;o)
Weight is something I still have a strange relationship with and it becomes stranger when my life is stressy. I still haven't figured it out but I know that if I step on the scales and see a higher number I feel a bit bummed out and if it's lower I feel great, even if it's only 100g either way. Not weighing doesn't really help because then I just worry - but again, only when I feel overwhelmed. Then I start to think about how much I weigh. So, clearly, it's NOT about the food or the weight, it's about me being a bit nutso. :-D
Right on! As you can see I have come to the end (for now?) of your amazing story. Still contemplating what I want to tell you (there's so much of it! Hah :) perhaps I should send you an email or something) but you should know you have another fan :)
xx trillz0r
Really cool post. I sometimes to feel like to respond in such a way to the comments that people leave on my blogs. But I usually delete them without any answer.
I guess it is needless to say I like the GFY response in this chain of comments, hah!
I just ran across your blog, read today's post, loved it! and clicked 'follow'. I will read more!
Carla
Great response to such a dumb comment. Being fit and confident will always feel better than being thin. Thanks for the reminder and blogging what the rest of us only think.
Amen sister! :)
wow, I can't believe anyone would write that! How rude! You are so cool!
Its crazy that someone would even say that and yes that does really show a sign of ignorance. I think you handled it really well and made a great post out of it. Enjoyed the photo!
Wow you go for it girl!!!